3 Methods successful women follow to keep their career on track

Some grow up in a family where setting goals is a natural part of kids’ lives from their early age, while other parents let their kids discover the way of planning their life and tasks on their own. One method may work as good as the other.

We bring many habits and beliefs from our childhood, but it would be a mistake to believe that only those beliefs influence us, even at later stages in our lives. There are good practices we can learn from women who already made it.
Let’s see a couple of examples:

Plan your life as you would plan a project in your work.

When you are working on a project in your job, you need to plan resources, assess risks, consider limitations and make sure the project is going to deliver the benefits you or your stakeholders expect.

  • Why would you accept anything less?
  • Why would you care any less when it comes to your life?

If you think about your career as a journey from the “Where have you been” through the “Where you are at the moment” on your way to the “Where you should be”, you are going to focus on what positions, tasks, experiences and skills take you there. And that is precisely the focus you need.

Fear not to say no

Over your lifetime many opportunities will come your way. Some will look particularly great, while others you need to let go.

You heard the word “no” many times in your life but when it comes to saying it to someone else, especially to a person who may be able to influence how your career develops, saying no might not be the most natural thing to do. We are all inclined to say yes now and then; when we should say no.

Think about it that way, every time you say yes when you should say no, you take time and opportunity away from yourself. Every time you say no you create space for something that works for you better.

Work with mentors

Setting goals is easy when you have a clear idea of what you want and a sense of purpose, but it becomes slightly fuzzy when you are not sure what direction to take. If you are in this situation right now, just know that you are not alone. Many people, at some point in their lives, will reach a turning point when they realise they have to change their ways.

Our parents or grandparents had probably worked for the same company for decades, while changes these days are constant in the majority of business sectors; and professionals need to adopt new practices more often than not. Whenever a change, affecting your career progress happens, it also creates an opportunity to think about your life overall.

In the middle of changes and the daily grind, your ability to see the bigger picture is different, and it is advised that you find a mentor who either had a similar situation in her or his life or has already achieved what you want to accomplish.

Understand INTJ, INTP, INFJ and INFP personalities

To be successful, you must do your utmost to develop an understanding of other people’s personalities. The different personalities that you encounter daily, shapes the way you work or approach tasks, your relationships with your workmates, your career choice, colleagues and friends, as well as your capacity to expose and showcase your skills and capabilities. As such, your personality and the personalities of the people you choose to associate with can affect your success. Understanding other people’s personalities helps at achieving success in whichever pursuit is in play, whether it is motivating your employees to reach those sale goals or getting your kids to eat their veggies at dinner time. Here is how understanding different personality types can help you be more successful:


People with INTJ personalities are reserved, which can come off as being standoffish or too serious. They are driven by their curiosity and their desire to learn about the principles that make things operational. In short, they like to think clearly and critically about everything and every decision that has to be made. To people with an INTJ personality, the world is one large chessboard waiting to be navigated.

As one of the most strategy− driven personalities out there, many individuals that have an INTJ personality struggle to make friends because they tend to have a self− assured attitude that makes it difficult for them to get along. Among children, INTJ personality types are often referred to as bookworms. Because of their natural need to acquire more knowledge, they enjoy sharing what they know and usually do it confidently because of their capacity to master everything they learn.

INTJs are also very autonomous and decisive, which allows them to thrive on their own, making it easy for them to take responsibility for their actions. Regardless of how popular something is, or how authoritative a person is, INTJ personality types are not easily swayed by traditions or other people’s power. To INTJs, an idea is either wrong or right based on logic and rationality.

Because of their knowledge, people with an INTJ personality can be arrogant and unwilling to listen to the opinions of others they consider intellectually inferior. Additionally, they have a tendency to apply logic and rationality to all issues even when the issues do not demand rationality, like when dealing with children or relationships. INTJs also hate over− structured environments that require stability over self− progress and determination. In the end, their unwillingness to compromise, their arrogance and their antipathy for rules make maintaining relationships, professional or romantic, very challenging for INTJs.


On the outside, people with an INTP personality may appear calm and collected, however, underneath lies a deep passion for innovation and ideas. INTPs are proud of their capacity to create unique things, and they typically have a unique perspective on all things as well as a vigorous intellect.

They have a tendency to share thoughts that are not fully developed, using conversations with other people as opportunities to receive feedback on their ideas and theories. This may make them appear unreliable, but they are enthusiastic about spotting a problem, diving deep into the endless series of details that encompass the issue and developing a unique solution. As for timely delivery, you may need to be patient and not to expect periodic reports on progress and results.

INTPs aren’t very much interested in the nitty− gritty of day− to− day activities; they rather like working in an environment where they can express their passionate and creative sides.

At work, INTPs hate to be governed and controlled by rules and are often more concerned with the theoretical viability of their ideas instead of the standards and traditions. They are often absentminded, forgetful and, in most cases, their personality can get caught up in their rationality to the extent that they forget how to be human. As such, they can be a bit insensitive to other people’s feelings. INTPs also like to keep their affairs private and are quite withdrawn in social settings.


Most people with an INFJ personality are found listening attentively to other people’s problems and providing solutions. They are highly perceptive about other people and the situations around them, which explains why they are good at handling complex personal issues and providing support. INFJs tend to reflect at length on issues of morality. They are approachable and calm, soft− spoken even while sharing strong opinions, decisive and can passionately advocate to support and protect the ideas or theories they believe in.

In their personal matters, people with INFJ personalities are very private and would rather be associated with their ideals. They are also perfectionists and hard to please. Because of their passion, they typically exhaust themselves with a few options of blowing off steam, meaning that, when they reach their breaking point, it can be difficult to get through to them.

In any case, when an INFJ believes in something, they will pursue it with an unbelievable amount of conviction and energy.


For a person with an INFP personality, there is nothing quite as paramount as originality and individuality in everything that is executed. INFPs seem carefree and prefer to explore their own values rather than conform to what they find in society. For an INFP, it is better to stay true to yourself than fit in with the crowd.

Most INFPs are cool, however, whenever they are around people they trust, their demeanour changes to become more relaxed. They tend to listen to many, but speak to few. As such, very few people understand the true ideals of an INFP. When making decisions, a person with an INFP personality will try to make the right decision based on morality, virtue and the purity of the intent, as opposed to the rewards or punishment that may be waiting.

In terms of friendships and relationships, INFPs only maintain a small circle of friends and, because of this, they approach relationships wholeheartedly with dedication and trust. Sadly, because of their innate altruistic desire, INFPs can be impractical and can go as far as neglecting themselves to pursue a cause. Additionally, they tend to take things too personally and do not respond to criticism well. Therefore, individuals with INFP personalities avoid any type of conflict at all costs.

How different personality types can help you be more successful

Personality types, Myres-Briggs test can help you be more successful

Well, aren’t we all curious to know the mystery behind our personality types? In fact, I am fairly confident that you have taken a personality test in the past, perhaps more than once. The Myers− Briggs Test (MBTI), first published in 1943, is all the rage right now. Whether you took it out of curiosity or for employment purposes, knowing your personality type has become indispensable in the complex world we live in.

Understanding your own personality type can help you achieve personal growth and success. But, how about the people in your life − your boss, your friends, your mentors, your family, your partner and so forth? How do their various personality types influence your life?

Which begs the question: how can you use different personality types to be more successful? In this article, I will walk you through several nifty tips, ideas and pointers on how to tap into each personality type (read: ESTJ, ESTP, ESFJ and ESFP) to your advantage, to succeed in your career, personal growth, business and whatnot. So, stay tuned for more to come in the coming weeks.

A little about Myers− Briggs personality inventory approach

The Myers− Briggs test has gained increasing traction over the years partly because of its simplicity and effectiveness. Of course, I won’t go into the nitty− gritty of MBTI, but here are simplified categories that can give you a glimpse into personality types:

If you tend to focus on the outer world to get energy, you are extraverted (E), as opposed to introverted (I), which is a person who benefits from some alone time when it comes to getting more energised.

How do you make decisions? If you tend to focus on the necessary information you receive, then they say you’re sensing (S). If you prefer to use intuition, add meaning or interpret something, you are intuiting (N).

Besides, if you prefer to focus on consistency or logic before making a decision, you are a thinker (or thinking; T). But, if you tend to first look at special circumstances and people before reaching a decision, you have a feeling (F) character.

How do you deal with others or the outside world? Are you open to new ideas, options or information (Perceiving, P) or prefer your own decision (Judging, J)?

The Myers− Briggs test index encompasses 16 personality types which are, in essence, expressed as a 4− letter code and based on the combination of preferences in each category as mentioned above. Don’t get me wrong, there’s no definitive type, but it’s a decent way to appreciate the difference in people.

ESTJ − – the “supervisor” you need in your life

Accounting for roughly 9% of the entire populace, ESTJ personalities are rational, down− to− earth and very pragmatic. Don’t be fooled by their well− meaning demeanour; these people are firm believers of their decision; that’s partly why they’ve been dubbed the “supervisors”. They are fast and determined decision− makers too.

If you are looking to make good of your association with an ESTJ, you probably have to look at your personality type first. If both of you are drinking from the same pot, it’s best if you don’t get into a partnership of any sort with the person. If you are completely different, then you’re in for a treat. For starters, ESTJs are firm believers in winning. So, partner with them, marry them, make them a CEO, and so forth.

If you find it hard to make a risky decision, for instance, an ESTJ will do the trick. They don’t ignore a conflict, but rather prefer to solve it right away. Well, if you are a little lazy or prone to making silly mistakes, this is someone worth keeping around; you will get straightened up in no time!

In short, find an ESTJ to mentor you if you’re looking to make your business, career or work pan out. If your friendship is failing because ESTJs can be a little judgmental, don’t worry, all will be good when you reap the fruits of your relationship.

ESTP − – the playful entrepreneur

What do Helen Mirren, Anna Wintour, Eva Peron, Milla Jovovich and Mila Kunis have in common? You guessed it right – they are all ESTPs. Well, a few personality types can be as alluring, engaging and charming as ESTPs. They are spontaneous, live in the present and are known to be the life of the party. They usually find it sizzling to experience and explore new things. Besides, they are bold, practical, rational, direct, perceptive and, more so, sociable.

If you are looking for someone to cheer you up or make you feel at ease during low times, ESTPs are your go− to because they are non− judgmental. However, you should be careful not to fall prey to their defiant, risky and disorderly lifestyles. You want them in your business because they are the idea− people, the innovators and the very creative. With their entrepreneurial oomph, ESTPs can do wonders for your life and business.

ESFJ −  The caring, loyal friend

Representing about 12% of the entire US population, ESFJs are perhaps the most popular personality type. In a conventional high school, you’ll notice most ESFJs to be football quarterbacks or cheerleaders. In adulthood, they are not that different. An ESFJ graduates from the popular kid on the block to a supportive and loving friend and parent. If there is someone who loves to see others happy, it most certainly would be an ESFJ.

When it comes to qualities, ESFJs are very loyal, great at listening, sensitive and warm, have a strong sense of duty and are good at connecting with us. That’s why they make for great friends. Their kindness and practical approach to life may come in very handy in your life. Besides, their dedication can be a great asset to your personal growth.

ESFP – The born entertainer

ESFPs are quite the “entertainers”. Well, they are known to be loud, funny and enthusiastic. These folks are extroverts who fancy talking all the time, mostly speaking even before they think. Remind you of someone?

ESFPs are great at socializing, networking and having fun. Of course, they are good at listening and forgiving, however, they get distracted easily and are known to be a bit disorganized. When not having fun, they are the go− to idea people and innovators. If you are looking for an observant friend or someone with people skills, an ESFP would do okay. They can also help you make short− term plans without much hassle.

If you are failing in your relationship, for instance, it would be best to have an ESFP friend by your side. The fact that they are good at listening affords them the luxury of understanding and cheering people up.

9 Ways to improve your self-discipline

Depressed young woman using computer at the officeWhen successful people talk about the secrets of their progress in life they highlight the importance of self-discipline. Whether it is a success they achieved in their professional lives or in their personal lives, maybe both, their inherent ability for self-control through discipline was one of the key levers of their success. They have been able to keep their thoughts, emotions and behaviours in check.

Self-discipline is vital to achieving any goal. Without self-discipline, it is difficult to avoid temptation. The essentials of discipline are routine and dedication, which paired with an optimistic view and positive affirmations can be very powerful tools to achieve continuous development. Staying focussed may be difficult sometimes, there will be better days and on other days you may find it trying to go on. A good way to stay motivated is by using a personal reward system to make you want to stay disciplined. Some people find it helpful to have a friend that motivates them and keeps them on track. Meditation can help to clear your head at the beginning of your day. You also want to set yourself up with a schedule that will help you stay organized. Sometimes it is difficult to maintain your self-discipline. Here are some ideas to help you improve it.

Maintaining a routine

Most of what we do day by day is habit driven, it is not difficult to create a routine so you can stay focussed and have the discipline to accomplish your goal. You can put yourself on a daily routine by getting a planner and creating a daily schedule for yourself. When you know day to day what you need to do to accomplish your goal, it makes it easier to achieve it and it becomes more obtainable. You will want to keep your appointments in this planner so you know exactly where you need to be at any given point during the day, this makes it all so easy to see at a glance what will be coming up next, so you can prepare yourself mentally for the challenges you will be facing. It works for me when I allow at least 15 minutes break between meetings whenever I can, because even this short time provides me with the opportunity to gather my thoughts, collect questions, think about what I want out of that specific meeting and make a quick plan.

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