Understand INTJ, INTP, INFJ and INFP personalities

To be successful, you must do your utmost to develop an understanding of other people’s personalities. The different personalities that you encounter daily, shapes the way you work or approach tasks, your relationships with your workmates, your career choice, colleagues and friends, as well as your capacity to expose and showcase your skills and capabilities. As such, your personality and the personalities of the people you choose to associate with can affect your success. Understanding other people’s personalities helps at achieving success in whichever pursuit is in play, whether it is motivating your employees to reach those sale goals or getting your kids to eat their veggies at dinner time. Here is how understanding different personality types can help you be more successful:

INTJ

People with INTJ personalities are reserved, which can come off as being standoffish or too serious. They are driven by their curiosity and their desire to learn about the principles that make things operational. In short, they like to think clearly and critically about everything and every decision that has to be made. To people with an INTJ personality, the world is one large chessboard waiting to be navigated.

As one of the most strategy− driven personalities out there, many individuals that have an INTJ personality struggle to make friends because they tend to have a self− assured attitude that makes it difficult for them to get along. Among children, INTJ personality types are often referred to as bookworms. Because of their natural need to acquire more knowledge, they enjoy sharing what they know and usually do it confidently because of their capacity to master everything they learn.

INTJs are also very autonomous and decisive, which allows them to thrive on their own, making it easy for them to take responsibility for their actions. Regardless of how popular something is, or how authoritative a person is, INTJ personality types are not easily swayed by traditions or other people’s power. To INTJs, an idea is either wrong or right based on logic and rationality.

Because of their knowledge, people with an INTJ personality can be arrogant and unwilling to listen to the opinions of others they consider intellectually inferior. Additionally, they have a tendency to apply logic and rationality to all issues even when the issues do not demand rationality, like when dealing with children or relationships. INTJs also hate over− structured environments that require stability over self− progress and determination. In the end, their unwillingness to compromise, their arrogance and their antipathy for rules make maintaining relationships, professional or romantic, very challenging for INTJs.

INTP

On the outside, people with an INTP personality may appear calm and collected, however, underneath lies a deep passion for innovation and ideas. INTPs are proud of their capacity to create unique things, and they typically have a unique perspective on all things as well as a vigorous intellect.

They have a tendency to share thoughts that are not fully developed, using conversations with other people as opportunities to receive feedback on their ideas and theories. This may make them appear unreliable, but they are enthusiastic about spotting a problem, diving deep into the endless series of details that encompass the issue and developing a unique solution. As for timely delivery, you may need to be patient and not to expect periodic reports on progress and results.

INTPs aren’t very much interested in the nitty− gritty of day− to− day activities; they rather like working in an environment where they can express their passionate and creative sides.

At work, INTPs hate to be governed and controlled by rules and are often more concerned with the theoretical viability of their ideas instead of the standards and traditions. They are often absentminded, forgetful and, in most cases, their personality can get caught up in their rationality to the extent that they forget how to be human. As such, they can be a bit insensitive to other people’s feelings. INTPs also like to keep their affairs private and are quite withdrawn in social settings.

INFJ

Most people with an INFJ personality are found listening attentively to other people’s problems and providing solutions. They are highly perceptive about other people and the situations around them, which explains why they are good at handling complex personal issues and providing support. INFJs tend to reflect at length on issues of morality. They are approachable and calm, soft− spoken even while sharing strong opinions, decisive and can passionately advocate to support and protect the ideas or theories they believe in.

In their personal matters, people with INFJ personalities are very private and would rather be associated with their ideals. They are also perfectionists and hard to please. Because of their passion, they typically exhaust themselves with a few options of blowing off steam, meaning that, when they reach their breaking point, it can be difficult to get through to them.

In any case, when an INFJ believes in something, they will pursue it with an unbelievable amount of conviction and energy.

INFP

For a person with an INFP personality, there is nothing quite as paramount as originality and individuality in everything that is executed. INFPs seem carefree and prefer to explore their own values rather than conform to what they find in society. For an INFP, it is better to stay true to yourself than fit in with the crowd.

Most INFPs are cool, however, whenever they are around people they trust, their demeanour changes to become more relaxed. They tend to listen to many, but speak to few. As such, very few people understand the true ideals of an INFP. When making decisions, a person with an INFP personality will try to make the right decision based on morality, virtue and the purity of the intent, as opposed to the rewards or punishment that may be waiting.

In terms of friendships and relationships, INFPs only maintain a small circle of friends and, because of this, they approach relationships wholeheartedly with dedication and trust. Sadly, because of their innate altruistic desire, INFPs can be impractical and can go as far as neglecting themselves to pursue a cause. Additionally, they tend to take things too personally and do not respond to criticism well. Therefore, individuals with INFP personalities avoid any type of conflict at all costs.

How understanding ENTJ, ENTP, ENFJ and ENFP personalities can help you be successful

Success is vital for the well− being of the individual and the community because it supplies a sense of security, confidence and capacity to contribute to the society at a greater level. Without hope of success, a person would cease to exist as they would have no purpose for continue on.

Part of being successful involves building and cultivating relationships with other people around you and, to do it successfully, it is important for you to arm yourself with knowledge about your personality, as well as other people’s personalities. For instance, if you are looking to make a career change or ask for a promotion, it might help to get what you want by learning the personalities of the people involved. Although it can be difficult to understand the various personalities out there, once you do, you will have armed yourself with a tool that can ensure your success.

Personality is only one of the many drivers of human behaviour; however, it is one that is consistent and unfailing. Here is how understanding different personality types can help you be more successful:

ENTJ

ENTJ is one of the least widespread types of personalities in the population, and it is even rarer to find a woman with an ENTJ personality. People with ENTJ are strategic to a fault and are motivated by the opportunity to inspire change and revolutionize how things work. In short, ENTJs are naturally born to lead. They have the power to attract audiences with their charisma and confidence and they project authority in everything that they do. ENTJs love a good challenge and their ability to think strategically and hold a long− term focus while executing each step in their plans with determination makes them successful.

Please be warned that, when dealing with ENTJ personality types, they can be ruthless in the way they rationalize things. They work very hard to accomplish their objectives, and they keep pressing on even when things appear bleak. They look forward to handling their duties because, rather than get taxed by work, they seem to derive energy from their work.

Sometimes, when all the confidence goes too far, an ENTJ can present a challenge because they will go as far as pushing their vision and desires onto other people.

ENTJs value quick thinking. For you to be friends with an ENTJ, you would have to share the same passion for deep and meaningful conversations, as well as a constant desire to learn and improve yourself.

ENTP

For an ENTP, the rules in society are made to be broken. As such, they enjoy finding loopholes in situations as well as figuring out how they can make a system work to their advantage. ENTPs are incredibly intelligent and charming, and they like to do things that allow them to expose their cleverness. They are quick to impress other people with their wit and humour. ENTPs are characteristically entrepreneurial and are usually excited to share their ideas and inventions.

At work, their greatest desire is to solve a problem that many others have been unable to resolve. They typically jump into situations head on and make the rules as they go along. They are quick thinkers and are always open for an opportunity that allows them to learn something new.

On the other hand, associating with a person with an ENTP personality can be challenging, because they are very argumentative and like to challenge how others think with vigour and enthusiasm. This contentious spirit is what allows ENTPs to develop additional skills that can strengthen their weaknesses. Independence is one of ENTPs’ greatest concerns; without independence, an ENTP feels incomplete and unsettled.

ENFJ

Among men, ENFJ is the second rarest category of personality. ENFJs are driven by a sincere desire for self− sacrifice and empathy for others. ENFJs have an innate ability to sense other people’s emotions and, in a way, they act as emotional barometers for others in the community.

ENFJs are natural born teachers, often finding people and including them in activities that can educate them. They can intuitively recognize other people’s potential, and they approach everything with warmth and charisma. Because of this, they make connections and friends quickly, and they are good at communicating.

At work, individuals with ENFJ personalities are pushed by the need to organize others to effect change positively. They thrive in cooperative and harmonious environments and therefore tend to take on a mentorship role.

Unfortunately, ENFJ people are too selfless and too sensitive to other people’s criticisms. Owing to their selfless nature and their over− idealism, ENFJs have earned a reputation for naïveté, which makes it easy for others to push them around or manipulate their ideals.

Most of the time, ENFJs ask for criticism, more out of their insecurities rather than out of confidence, always wondering what they can do to make other people like them more. During a crisis, ENFJ personalities struggle with decision making and can even be stricken with paralysis and fear when making an important decision.

ENFP

ENFPs are extremely social and are always looking for opportunities that can allow them to share and talk to people about their opinions, their desires, motivations and their dreams in life. In short, they are the dreamers and the carefree people of society. They light up every party they attend and, unlike explorers who value the adrenaline rush, they value the social connections that they make along their adventures.

Many other personalities find ENFPs attractive and impressive because they are often very popular and well known. With ENFPs, the most important thing in life is having fun, which causes them to have wild bursts of energy and passion. ENFPs get along with almost all personality types, and their circle of friends is extensive and wide.

Sadly, despite their feel− good attitude, ENFPs struggle to follow through projects. Most of their ideas are never actualized because they find it difficult to concentrate on one thing for too long. They are also highly emotional beings that care deeply about how others feel and how others perceive them. Owing to this, they get stressed easily because of their desire to please everyone. Additionally, ENFP personalities require independence and hate to be micromanaged or controlled.

How to keep a supportive friendship alive

Are you tired of your old pal ignoring you when you need her most? Do you feel that your friendship is failing because your buddy is not helpful to you?

Let’s be honest; it is quite saddening to have a friendship that’s on the rocks. It could be that your pal has made some new friends or going through a rough patch in his or her life. Nonetheless, the essence of being friends is for you to be able to help each other. You need someone who is supportive, non-judgmental, engaging and able to help you feel at ease.

That said, if things aren’t all rosy with your friend, there are some strategies you can use to help him or her to be more helpful. Read on to learn how.

Spruce up your usual conversation

Perhaps your friend is ignoring you because the relationship has become a little mundane. So, shake things up when it comes to conversation. Look for interesting and fresh topics to bring up in discussion with your friend. If you always talk about video games, for instance, maybe it’s high-time to switch onto career, relationships and whatnot. It also pays to keep a little mystery in your topics. That would most certainly keep your friend engrossed in the conversation. This way, you can enhance your pal’s listening tendencies towards you so that the next time you bring up a problem, it will not fall on a deaf ear.

Simply help her or him out when in need

Most vibrant friendships are all about tit-for-tat. If your pal isn’t listening to your issues or not helping out much, maybe it’s because you are not helpful yourself. Create a sense of family or community with your friend. Being able to assist your pal forges a relationship based on the feeling of giving and taking, not just taking all the time. Be supportive and always make him or she feel at ease.

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9 Ways to improve your self-discipline

Depressed young woman using computer at the officeWhen successful people talk about the secrets of their progress in life they highlight the importance of self-discipline. Whether it is a success they achieved in their professional lives or in their personal lives, maybe both, their inherent ability for self-control through discipline was one of the key levers of their success. They have been able to keep their thoughts, emotions and behaviours in check.

Self-discipline is vital to achieving any goal. Without self-discipline, it is difficult to avoid temptation. The essentials of discipline are routine and dedication, which paired with an optimistic view and positive affirmations can be very powerful tools to achieve continuous development. Staying focussed may be difficult sometimes, there will be better days and on other days you may find it trying to go on. A good way to stay motivated is by using a personal reward system to make you want to stay disciplined. Some people find it helpful to have a friend that motivates them and keeps them on track. Meditation can help to clear your head at the beginning of your day. You also want to set yourself up with a schedule that will help you stay organized. Sometimes it is difficult to maintain your self-discipline. Here are some ideas to help you improve it.

Maintaining a routine

Most of what we do day by day is habit driven, it is not difficult to create a routine so you can stay focussed and have the discipline to accomplish your goal. You can put yourself on a daily routine by getting a planner and creating a daily schedule for yourself. When you know day to day what you need to do to accomplish your goal, it makes it easier to achieve it and it becomes more obtainable. You will want to keep your appointments in this planner so you know exactly where you need to be at any given point during the day, this makes it all so easy to see at a glance what will be coming up next, so you can prepare yourself mentally for the challenges you will be facing. It works for me when I allow at least 15 minutes break between meetings whenever I can, because even this short time provides me with the opportunity to gather my thoughts, collect questions, think about what I want out of that specific meeting and make a quick plan.

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