To be successful, you must do your utmost to develop an understanding of other people’s personalities. The different personalities that you encounter daily, shapes the way you work or approach tasks, your relationships with your workmates, your career choice, colleagues and friends, as well as your capacity to expose and showcase your skills and capabilities.
Note: this article is the 3rd part of a series. Start here with the first part so you can have a better understanding of the personality typology we write about in this series.
As such, your personality and the personalities of the people you choose to associate with can affect your success. Understanding other people’s personalities helps at achieving success in whichever pursuit is in play, whether it is motivating your employees to reach those sale goals or getting your kids to eat their veggies at dinner time. Here is how understanding different personality types can help you be more successful:
People with INTJ personalities are reserved, which can come off as being standoffish or too serious. They are driven by their curiosity and their desire to learn about the principles that make things operational. In short, they like to think clearly and critically about everything and every decision that has to be made. To people with an INTJ personality, the world is one large chessboard waiting to be navigated.
As one of the most strategy− driven personalities out there, many individuals that have an INTJ personality struggle to make friends because they tend to have a self-assured attitude that makes it difficult for them to get along. Among children, INTJ personality types are often referred to as bookworms. Because of their natural need to acquire more knowledge, they enjoy sharing what they know and usually do it confidently because of their capacity to master everything they learn.
INTJs are also very autonomous and decisive, which allows them to thrive on their own, making it easy for them to take responsibility for their actions. Regardless of how popular something is, or how authoritative a person is, INTJ personality types are not easily swayed by traditions or other people’s power. To INTJs, an idea is either wrong or right based on logic and rationality.
Because of their knowledge, people with an INTJ personality can be arrogant and unwilling to listen to the opinions of others they consider intellectually inferior. Additionally, they have a tendency to apply logic and rationality to all issues even when the issues do not demand rationality, like when dealing with children or relationships. INTJs also hate over− structured environments that require stability over self-progress and determination. In the end, their unwillingness to compromise, their arrogance and their antipathy for rules make maintaining relationships, professional or romantic, very challenging for INTJs.
On the outside, people with an INTP personality may appear calm and collected, however, underneath lies a deep passion for innovation and ideas. INTPs are proud of their capacity to create unique things, and they typically have a unique perspective on all things as well as a vigorous intellect.
They have a tendency to share thoughts that are not fully developed, using conversations with other people as opportunities to receive feedback on their ideas and theories. This may make them appear unreliable, but they are enthusiastic about spotting a problem, diving deep into the endless series of details that encompass the issue and developing a unique solution. As for timely delivery, you may need to be patient and not to expect periodic reports on progress and results.
INTPs aren’t very much interested in the nitty-gritty of day− to− day activities; they rather like working in an environment where they can express their passionate and creative sides.
At work, INTPs hate to be governed and controlled by rules and are often more concerned with the theoretical viability of their ideas instead of the standards and traditions. They are often absentminded, forgetful and, in most cases, their personality can get caught up in their rationality to the extent that they forget how to be human. As such, they can be a bit insensitive to other people’s feelings. INTPs also like to keep their affairs private and are quite withdrawn in social settings.
Most people with an INFJ personality are found listening attentively to other people’s problems and providing solutions. They are highly perceptive about other people and the situations around them, which explains why they are good at handling complex personal issues and providing support. INFJs tend to reflect at length on issues of morality. They are approachable and calm, soft-spoken even while sharing strong opinions, decisive and can passionately advocate to support and protect the ideas or theories they believe in.
In their personal matters, people with INFJ personalities are very private and would rather be associated with their ideas. They are also perfectionists and hard to please. Because of their passion, they typically exhaust themselves with a few options of blowing off steam, meaning that, when they reach their breaking point, it can be difficult to get through to them.
In any case, when an INFJ believes in something, they will pursue it with an unbelievable amount of conviction and energy.
For a person with an INFP personality, there is nothing quite as paramount as originality and individuality in everything that is executed. INFPs seem carefree and prefer to explore their own values rather than conform to what they find in society. For an INFP, it is better to stay true to yourself than fit in with the crowd.
Most INFPs are cool, however, whenever they are around people they trust, their demeanour changes to become more relaxed. They tend to listen to many, but speak to few. As such, very few people understand the true ideals of an INFP. When making decisions, a person with an INFP personality will try to make the right decision based on morality, virtue and the purity of the intent, as opposed to the rewards or punishment that may be waiting.
In terms of friendships and relationships, INFPs only maintain a small circle of friends and, because of this, they approach relationships wholeheartedly with dedication and trust. Sadly, because of their innate altruistic desire, INFPs can be impractical and can go as far as neglecting themselves to pursue a cause. Additionally, they tend to take things too personally and do not respond to criticism well. Therefore, individuals with INFP personalities avoid any type of conflict at all costs.
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